Summer is over and with that comes change. Are you ready for it? You will be after reading this.
Whether it is starting a new school, university, a job or simply going back to real life after weeks of sun, friends and cold rosé, the feeling of change is real. It can be stressful indeed. No Monday is worse than the first Monday after summer. Here’s 5 tips for how to deal with change, especially for you going through changes of your own (read: hair loss).
1 Take it step by step
When I started losing hair, I was moving to a new country, a new city (Amsterdam), and starting a new job. I got new roomies, four of them actually and a completely new life. The whole time, I was also losing my beautiful, long, blonde hair. That is one year ago. The fact that I was losing my hair added to being stressed, and I remember saying to myself: take it easy, it is never a piece of cake to move away starting a new job. I told myself it was OK to not be overly happy all the time. So, I let myself slowly make new friends, slowly joining my new roomies for dinners, slowly check out the city. The old hairy me would probably have taken it all in one bite, but the changing me needed to take it step by step.
2 Be social
Even though I wasn’t finding it very easy to make new friends because my confidence was a bit low due to excessive hair loss and always wearing hats, I knew I had to make friends and do fun stuff. I mean, no one can survive without having someone to laugh with. Or at least fake a laugh with. So, I made sure I was social enough to get a few good friends and also said “yes” to stuff when I really only wanted to watch Netflix in my tiny, overpriced room. That is how I made really good friends whom I could talk to about my struggles. And they talked to me about their struggles, and I could forget my hair loss problems for a while.
3 Fake it ‘til you make it
Being social isn’t very easy when you have a lot of things on your mind, and as my mother has taught me, I faked til ‘til I made it. Because sometimes you have to fake a smile and have a boring, strained chat with someone over lunch. In the moment it feels like blaaah, but afterwards you feel great! Yay you: you just managed to talk to a stranger about everyday stuff and smile and you are actually normal like that even if your mind is full of chaooooos. You deserve Netflix and wine!
4 Look great
Feeling like you make a good first impression is important to most people, even more important when your confidence is a bit beaten up. So go shopping, put on that new lipstick, those silver shoes, that amazing jacket and look cooler than everyone. If your style is on fleek, it all feels so. much. better.
5 Complain and give compliments to yourself
Nothing says you appreciate a person more than complaining to them. Living far away from my family and friends - I sometimes felt alone and needed to dish it all out. I took advantage of the unconditional love of my mother and used her as a trash can for my thoughts. That sounds awful, but being able to just be angry and sad and talking about it to someone once in awhile really helps. The important thing is to not forget to also be happy and appreciate stuff. So here’s how to do it: “Blaaah, my life sucks, my hair is gone soon, I feel awful! *mother replies with sad emojis* But I can do this, I have plans with my friends this evening, my new jeans are great and I feel empowered by going through something hard and yet managing to not let it ruin my everyday life *mother replies with happy cat emojis*.
To sum up your new life this fall: Take it step by step, be social and get some nice new friends, fake a laugh (and maybe it will turn into a real one), look your best and go shopping, and most important: go call your mother and talk about it.